tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-79560616120572179222024-03-18T20:29:20.975-07:00iJizablogWelcome to Jiza's Blog!Jizahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01453380302784838043noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7956061612057217922.post-32538055832554099862009-12-15T15:41:00.001-08:002009-12-15T16:26:23.923-08:00Annoying things that couples say to singles…<!--StartFragment--> <p class="MsoNormal">Funny how “they” say that love will find you when you least expect it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I got bit by the love bug… hard!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>A couple of months ago I went to Chicago to visit a good girlfriend who moved there over the summer.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>While there I connected with an old guy friend of mine.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I can’t quite put my finger on what changed for me but when I saw him something bubbled up inside me and I instantly knew that there was something there.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Little did I know that just a few months later I would be head over heels in love with a man I’ve known for 6 years.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Never in a million years would I have thought that my trip to Chicago would lead to me finding love.</p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify">I used to be (and still am…) gravely annoyed by my friends who are in relationships that say shit like: “You’ll find love when you least expect it, or when you are not looking for it!”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>In my brain that was almost the equivalent of running fingernails down a chalkboard.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Now after many years of living the “single-life” and having my fair share of horrible dating stories, I can honestly, but begrudgingly say that they were all right.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>It was at that moment when I literally decided that “I’m done!”, that love decided to waltz into my life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify">While I am happy, elated, on cloud nine, there is one thing I absolutely know for sure.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>No matter how true the aforementioned statement is, I will never utter those dreadful words to my single friends, because in my world, they are right up there with “You are such a great catch, I don’t understand why you are single?”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>I don’t know how some people can fix their faces to let these words drop out of it and think that this is a compliment.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>Let me set the record straight and let it be known that it is NOT!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span>This question, while it may seem like a compliment is one of the biggest insults and most singles I know take this question to mean: “What is wrong with YOU?”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify"><b>*Climbing down off of soap-box, and back up on cloud nine now</b>* </p> <!--EndFragment-->Jizahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01453380302784838043noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7956061612057217922.post-86298097625747925692009-09-16T19:29:00.000-07:002009-12-15T16:28:26.898-08:00Willing to relocate...<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixiWw9zBzBjKta9XTPsGJ0X8d0r5uhNb3Hxsu2orMSSou1KJuvM7H13TQZAxxNATzdT5_weZ7I1rQz6lbcO9KYY1kV9E3k7wBvqn8HdF41tJVG7L2IInj3kmM0XENj8moG_4-Oy0g4nxqh/s1600-h/IMG_0013.JPG"><blockquote></blockquote><blockquote></blockquote><span><span></span></span><img style="text-align: center;float: left; 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margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><br /></p><p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px">Five years ago when my friends asked me the hypothetical question “Would you move for love?” My answer was unequivocally a resounding “NO!” before the question could completely leave their lips. I have been living in the Bay Area now for a little over 10 years. I fell in love with this place before I even stepped off the plane. Just flying over the Bay Area, I was captivated by the sheer beauty. </span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; min-height: 14px; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px"></span><br /></p> <p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px">I moved here in my early twenties, and for all intensive purposes, this is where I became an adult. It was here that I landed my first “real job”, bought my first car, went to grad school, earned a masters degree, bought my first piece of property. It was here in good old California that I became a grown-up. Naturally, I have a burning passion for this place. As a native New Yorker there are so many things that I adore and appreciate about the bay. Way beyond the amazing weather, Indian summers, the smell of honeysuckle, and urban eclectic charm, I simply couldn’t imagine living anywhere else. I have also suffered a great deal of heartache and disappointment in relationships here. </span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; min-height: 14px; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px"></span><br /></p> <p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px">Ten years later I have been thinking about this question of “moving for love”... I never thought I would admit this but now having spent the last 4 years of my life single, lonely and borderline depressed, I think, yes, I would move for love. The thought of leaving this place that I am so madly in love with literally makes my chest feel tight as I type this, however, the thought of spending the rest of my life alone is unbearable. </span></p> <p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; min-height: 14px; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px"></span><br /></p> <p style="text-align: justify;margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0.0px">“Wherever you are, there you are.” Someone once uttered those words to me. I wonder is this statement accurate? Yes indeed, one is pretty much stuck with oneself as long as one resides anywhere on this planet, but as one who has a degree in marketing, I understand all to well that it’s about location, location, location. What is it about the beautiful bay area that makes finding a mate such an impossible feat? Furthermore, why does it seem like single women here have to work so much harder to meet a nice guy? It shouldn’t be this damn hard. However, if the odds are stacked against me, perhaps I am in the wrong location to find love, and if that’s the case, hell yeah, I would move for love. </span></p>Jizahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01453380302784838043noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7956061612057217922.post-13840959785677366542008-10-19T09:51:00.000-07:002009-07-16T12:45:07.329-07:00"Emotionally Unavailable" Magnet<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(51, 51, 51); font-family:'Trebuchet MS';font-size:13px;"><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; color: rgb(51, 51, 51); "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"><br /></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I don’t know if I have an invisible sign on my head that reads aforementioned, however it seems for the past 6 or so years the only men I seem to attract are emotionally fucking available. I have to wonder, what is it about me or my character that seems to be attracting this type of individual into my life. Am I myself dare I say “emotionally unavailable”? If I were to be completely honest with myself, I would say that I am perhaps maybe</span></span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> too</span></span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> available. I am one of those “wear my heart on my sleeve” kinda girls… never been one for the games. (Mainly because I honestly do not know how to play them…) So in typical New Yorker fashion, I tend to be “no holds barred”, in-your- face, direct and down to earth! You wanna know what I’m feeling? Don’t worry, I </span></span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">will</span></span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> let you know. Perhaps it is this “attitude” that comes off “threatening” or “intimidating”, but I have to wonder why on earth do I always end up with dudes who are uavailable emotionally? I don’t get it. I don’t understand why do men actively seek relationships, yet they are not available to be in one? (Is "emotionally unavailable" code for "I don't want to be in a relationship with you, but I wouldn't mind sleeping with you from time to time, just so long as you do not pressure me into a relationship?")</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"><br /></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">After many years of therapy, self-help books and the like, I have tried to figure out the role I play in my failed relationships; after all I am the common denominator no?</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">What I have learned over the years is that while in theory, no one wants to go through life on this planet alone, the timing may not always be right. In spite of your best intentions of wanting to have someone in your life, for whatever reason the universe wants otherwise for you. I keep trying to tell myself this, however I am not convinced. Maybe one day I will meet someone who is exactly at the same place I am in my journey, emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually.</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">As I type this the song that is playing in my head is one of my favorites from India Arie, and I will leave you with the lyrics....</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I am ready for love</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">Why are hiding from me?</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I’d quickly give my freedom</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">To be held in your captivity</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I am ready for love</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">All of the joy and the pain</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">And all the time that it takes</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">Just to stay in your good grace</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">Lately I’ve been thinking maybe</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">you’re not ready for me</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">Maybe you think I need to learn maturity</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">They say watch what you ask for</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">Cuz you might receive</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">But if you ask me tomorrow</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I’ll say the same thing</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I am ready for love</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">Would you please lend me your ear</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I promise I won’t complain</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I just need you to acknowledge I am here</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">If you give me half the chance</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I’ll prove this to you</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I would be patient kind faithful and true</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">To a man who loves music</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">A man who loves art</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">Respects the sprit world</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">And thinks with his heart</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I am ready for love</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">If you’ll take me in your hand</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I will learn what you teach</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">And do the best that I can</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I am ready for love</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">Here with an offering of</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">My voice my eyes my soul my mind</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">Tell me what is enough to prove</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">that I am ready for love</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">I am ready.</span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 16px/normal 'Times New Roman'; "><span style="letter-spacing: 0px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;"> </span></span></span></p><p style="margin-top: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-bottom: 12px; margin-left: 0px; text-align: justify; font: normal normal normal 12px/normal 'Lucida Grande'; "><span style="text-decoration: underline; letter-spacing: 0px; "><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QFMC1N3L3n4&feature=related" style="font-weight: bold; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:georgia;">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QFMC1N3L3n4&feature=related</span></span></a></span></p></span>Jizahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01453380302784838043noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7956061612057217922.post-71163568022597779302008-10-09T13:42:00.000-07:002009-07-16T12:04:41.126-07:00Embracing Singlehood (trying anyway...)<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify">I spent a good part of this year trying desperately to get rid of my “single status” as if it were a disease.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I longed to find a partner, to be coupled up, use the term “we” and have someone to check in with before accepting invitations etc… The bay area is “Couple Central”… every where you go you see people hand-in-hand/arm-in arm, or in pairs.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I’m constantly reminded of my solitude and even at times feel isolated because I don’t have a “plus 1”. <span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I’m starting to realize here lately that being single does not have to be a death sentence.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Since when did getting married have to be the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow?<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>While I would never ever EVER give up on love, I’m starting to realize that being with myself is not such a bad thing. <span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> (I actually love my own company, for the record!)</span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify">I just received an email from my on-line dating site telling me to check my inbox as someone has just sent me a message.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>As always with excitement I go to my inbox only to find this message:<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>“u r cute as fuck.” Not knowing exactly how to respond to that, I choose simply to send it to the trash, but it got me thinking…<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>for every one decent email I receive from someone who as actually taken the time to read my profile, I receive about 10 other “cute as fuck” emails.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>What’s a girl to do?<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify">Call me a defeatist, but I’m starting to realize that although I have attended two successful weddings of dear friends who have met their mates on-line, the on-line thing simply does NOT work for me.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>My latest suitor helped me realize that while I may be cute as fuck, I need not resort to the virtual meat market to meet my Mr. Right, and maybe just maybe I can make it through the holidays alone again this year. </p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify"><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify">My little sister has been telling me as long as she could talk that I am “too picky”.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I have male friends that tell me that I have “unreasonable expectations” and should consider letting go of some of my “requirements” or deal-breakers.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Perhaps they are all right.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>The older I get the more I am realizing that if I forget about finding a “husband” and just set my intentions on attracting love into my life, then perhaps this whole dating thing would be nearly as daunting and frustrating for me. One thing I am fairly certain about:<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I am DONE with the on-line dating!</p>Jizahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01453380302784838043noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7956061612057217922.post-19260059096047671732008-09-23T14:58:00.000-07:002008-09-25T12:32:28.881-07:00Dating & the City...<p class="MsoNormal">Today, Tuesday, September 23, 2008, marks the end of the string of bad dates that I have been on in 2008.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Back in January, I set an “intention” with myself to be engaged by the end of 2008.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>(I know that sounds all new <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">agey</span> and shit, but when in San Francisco...)<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I told everyone I knew and anyone that would listen that I was single, and available and interested in meeting someone wonderful.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Though my friends had good intentions I was set up on terrible dates with men who <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">could no</span>t be farther from my “type”.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I had to question whether my friends really knew me at all.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I took it all in stride, justifying that these experiences will be the makings of good material for the book that I would ultimately write about my bad, yet humorous dating stories.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>One by one, the man who was clearly gay who came up to my boobs, or the guy who told me I was too fat (oh I got the email to prove it...), or the guy who did pull-ups on tree limbs during our hike and took me through a rigorous boot-camp afterwards, <span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>or the guy who showed up to our first date wearing track pants, tennis shoes and an <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">over sized</span> grey t-shirt, and finally that man who introduced me to his ex-wife and 12 year old daughter on our first date all made appearances in my world and provided me with endless stories to share. Oh how my friends and family laughed and howled at all of the comedy that was ultimately my sad (and lonely) quest upon finding Mr. Right.</p> <p class="MsoNormal">I finally decided enough was enough.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I canceled all of my on-line dating subscriptions (match.com & <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_3">eharmony.com</span>), and would not even entertain the “I have the perfect person you should meet…” hook-ups from friends looking at me with wild googly eyes.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>“I swear this one is normal…” they would protest.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I was done.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>DONE.</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Months went by and I nearly forgot about one on-line dating site that I remained active (only because it was free…) and came across a rather attractive man. <span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>After a few email exchanges, hours of on-line chatting, and a brief phone call we decided to meet.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal">It was the most perfect and lovely first date I have had in years.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I arrived early, so as usual my head was stuck in a book, when I looked up and saw this beautiful man standing over me.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I rose to give him a friendly hug, and could see immediately that he was blushing.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>We both ordered the same dish (a fruit plate), and laughed and told stories for nearly an hour.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>He offered to walk me to my car, I accepted and we sat and talked some more.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>It was just so comforting how easy the conversation flowed.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>There were no awkward silences, we laughed easily together, and I <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_4">could no</span>t believe that not only was there mutual chemistry there, there was also an easy friendliness and genuine/honest nature that made being around this guy very nice.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>So I am beyond excited and happy, and encouraged that on this day, I met a nice (from what I can tell so far…) “normal” guy, whom I found very attractive.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Regardless of what happens, <span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I am still delighted in the fact that not every single date I went on in 2008 was material for horror stories which I will tell my children one day, or better yet, end up as a best-seller for single 30-something’s across the <st1:country-region st="on"><st1:place st="on">US</st1:place></st1:country-region>. (Hey a girl can dream...)</p>Jizahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01453380302784838043noreply@blogger.com7